You Don't Have to Like Your Body to Love Your Body
Please Stop Talking About My Body: 4 Steps to Boundary Setting for Body Confidence
Last week, I shared a piece in the New York Times about how the wellness industry is duping intelligent women into believing pseudoscience claims about health and is promoting weight loss under the guise of wellness. The author discusses the idea of ending her relationship with diet culture and looking towards intuitive eating, a practice that’s been around for decades, for answers.
I love that the author touched on a few important fallacies of the wellness industry, and what a healthy relationship with food actually looks like.
What Beyoncé Got Wrong at Beychella
As much as I like to this our society is shifting, we definitely still live in a body obsessed diet culture where thinness is praised and equated with health. With these assumptions comes misguided comments and concern from others about our bodies, the foods we’re eating and the exercises we’re doing. Unfortunately the more you live outside the “norm” of what our society deems an acceptable body, the more comments you will likely yield, but sadly no one is exempt.
Why BMI is a BS Health Marker
Like most millennial fan girls in America last week, I tuned into Beyoncé’s new Homecoming doc on Netflix. I was basically in tears belting out Beyoncé lyrics and nodding along in reverence up until the part where she described the crazy restrictive diet she went on to lose her baby weight and prep for her Coachella performance in 2018.
My heart sank as she ticked off the long list of food groups she eliminated. I won’t list them here because I don’t want to further glorify restrictive eating, but the list is out there on the Internet if you need to see it.
Why Counting Calories is #FakeNews
Last week we went back in time to the 1860’s when the Pony Express was thriving and the calorie was invented. This week we’re going back even further to learn about the ever-so-flawed BMI (Body Mass Index).
The BMI was invented in the 1830s by Adolphe Quetelet, a Belgian mathematician and sociologist. It was created as a way to generalize obesity trends in large populations by essentially dividing an individual’s weight by height.
Body Confident vs. Body Positive...Do You Know the Difference?
Would you base your diet on science from a time when The Pony Express was the only way to send a letter? Or before the Stock Exchange even existed? Probably not, but if you’re counting calories for weight loss that’s exactly what you’re doing.
The concept of the calorie was originally introduced by German scientists in the 1860s as a way to measure the efficiency of steam engines. Yep, you read that correctly. Steam engines. A calorie is simply the unit of energy needed to raise 1 kilogram of water by 1-degree Celsius.
Raising Body Confident Daughters
There is no question that there is a movement growing. A movement where women are waking up to the lies that diet culture has spun to them for decades and learning to find peace with their bodies as they are now. As with any movement, corporate America has latched onto the idea of body positivity and run with it, oftentimes missing the mark and skewing the actual message of the movement. With that, droves of instagrammers have picked up the term body positivity, or #bopo, and merged it with body confidence. I’m here to show you why this is harmful and help you unravel the two.
How to Spot + Stop Negative Self-Talk in its Tracks
Some of my earliest memories were formed in the dressing room of Ann Taylor. Before I was bogged down with the demands of preschool, my mom and I would spend our days running household errands, shuttling my sister around to her activities, and of course, shopping. I would play hide-and-seek between racks of clothes as my mom would try on outfits. “My butt looks HUGE in these,” she’d scowl. “I’m just so FAT today. I have got to stop snacking,” she’d quip.
3 Ways to Boost Body Confidence in Less Than 10 Minutes a Day
This week I’m diving into negative self-talk with my online program beta testers (shout out to you beautiful people!) and wanted to open the conversation to you all. This is a theme that I see come up again and again with my clients and certainly with myself. So how do we get out of our own way? Our thoughts give way to our emotions, so if we want to feel better, we need to think better. But first, we need to become aware of our negative thought patterns so we can squash them as they come up. Below are the 10 most common types of cognitive distortions.
The 3 Most Important Letters You Will Never Send
When I speak with women about their relationship with their bodies, I oftentimes find that they’re looking for something mind blowing - some secret affirmation or ritual that will spark an epiphany and they suddenly love every inch of their body. If that’s out there, please let me know. From my experience, it’s the little things that add up. It’s fleeting moments of peace and gratitude that slowly but surely well up into an overflowing pool of love to draw from.
5 Tips for Creating 2019 Goals that Stick + Serve You
Over the past few weeks I’ve been encouraging you to really show up for yourself in a whole new way this year. On social media and in my newsletter I’ve been asking that you make this the year you do the inner work, foster the relationship you have with yourself, and create lasting change in your life from the inside out. Over the next few blog posts I’ll be sharing some of my favorite exercises and tips to help you do just that, starting with the three letters you MUST write in order to kick off the process.
5 Myths About Intuitive Eating BUSTED
Every year, without fail, millions of Americans pledge that their New Year Resolution is to lose weight, and every year, without fail, millions of Americans don’t lose the weight, or they do and quickly gain it right back. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting different results. So, I ask, is America insane? Actually, don’t answer that. Whatever America may or not be, you don’t have to be part of the insanity that is diet culture.
'Tis the Season for Diet Talk + Holiday Weight Woes
Whenever I’m at a dinner party or social gathering and people learn that I am a personal trainer and eating psychology coach, I get peppered with questions about workouts and what to eat. When I start to explain that I don’t eat keto, paleo, vegan, or low carb and that I eat intuitively with my body, I get some weird looks. Below are the top 5 misconceptions I hear about intuitive eating and my response to them.
1. If I allow myself to eat whatever I want I will never stop eating cookies, fries, cakes, and fast food.
So, what exactly is an Eating Psychology coach anyway?
Ok, it’s here. Some of us may count down the days and others brace for impact, but either way, there is no denying that the holidays are upon us. If you weren’t sure, just check your cup at Starbucks.
Along with ugly sweaters and Black Friday sales comes the inevitable diet talk that seems to come up whenever humans (particularly women) are 1) in groups and 2) around food. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, it sounds a little something like this:
Welcome to With Love, Kate
As of Friday, October 19th, 2018 I am officially certified as an Eating Psychology Coach! Woo! So, now you may be wondering, what exactly is that??
My eating psychology training gave me a different perspective on health and nutrition than I had received in any of my other fitness and nutrition courses. Instead of looking at diet and nutrition from an “eat this, not that” viewpoint, I’ve been trained to look into the why and how behind your food choices.
I remember a time when I was 15 and in recovery from my eating disorder. My therapist shared with me she didn’t think about how many calories were in her food when she ate. My jaw literally dropped. Fifteen-year-old me thought there was NO WAY I’d ever get to a point where I didn’t consciously or subconsciously count the calories of everything that went into my mouth, even if I tried. I know too much, I thought. I can’t un-know how many calories are in something, and I sure as hell will never un-care!!